Grief… good

Curl up and hide
Heart racer
Guilt forger
Maybe I could have done better

Maybe I will dream about him
Maybe he has forgiven me
Is he in a better place?
Should I worry?

Death leave in its wake a multitude of questions
Multitude of wanting to become better
Death brings pressure
Same as living does…

Now, death pulls silence along with a jumble of thoughts clanging about
Death has left me sighing, not being able to catch full breath
Is it for me to worry about the what-ifs?
Is it for you to think what people will think if you do not wear black as is required?
Amidst the busyness and fanfare that death brings
Can we be still and listen?
Can we be still and rejoice that now ‘he rests’?

Can we for once block out the noise and let God minister peace?
Can we for once block out the 40-day mourning and let be?

Let the dead rest.
They are in a better place.

I receive comfort in my grief from this Hymn; To God be the glory, great things He hath done.

Stanza 2:
Oh, perfect redemption, the purchase of blood,
To every believer the promise of God;
The vilest offender who truly believes,
That moment from Jesus a pardon receives.

Do not worry whether they will make heaven or hell
Cease from imagining the worse
If you care so much about where they will end
Think of how the Father feels in last moment
Think of Him stretching his hands to receive them and of them responding by placing their hands in His
Trusting him

God will not let them go without opening avenues for them to believe and accept him
He is not a God that will sit arms akimbo looking down with a smirk to say
‘There you are writhing on your sick bed
I will not do anything. Die and go to the devil’

Jesus will come arms wide open to comfort them in their pain
He will use people to minister to them and reassure them of Him
You do not have to be physically present to gain the assurance of their faith


He said in Isaiah 42:3
A bruised reed shall he not break,
and the smoking flax shall he not quench:
he shall bring forth judgment unto truth

Matthew Poole’s Commentary
A bruised reed shall he not break; he will not break it to pieces, but rather will strengthen and bind it up.
The sense is plainly this, Christ will not deal roughly and rigorously with those that come to him, but he will use all gentleness and kindness to them, passing by their greatest sins, bearing with their present infirmities, cherishing and encouraging the smallest beginnings of grace, comforting and healing wounded consciences, and the like.

The smoking flax shall he not quench; the same thing is repeated in other words, to give us the greater assurance of the truth of it. That wick of a candle (called flax metonymically, because it is made of flax) which is almost extinct, and doth only smoke and not flame, he will not utterly quench, but will revive and kindle it again.

He shall bring forth judgment unto truth: judgment may be here taken either,
1. For the law or will of God, or the doctrine of the gospel, which he will bring forth, i.e. publish, which he will do unto, or in, or with, or according to (for this preposition is used all those ways) truth, i.e. truly and faithfully, not concealing nor corrupting it, as false teachers commonly do. So this is a character like that which is given to Christ, Matthew 22:16, Thou art true, and teachest the way of God in truth; and thus this phrase of bringing forth judgment is taken here, as it is Isaiah 42:1. Or,

2. For the cause which is debated, or for the sentence which is given in the cause, as this word is most frequently used, which he will bring forth, i.e. bring to light, or discover, or publish; and this he will do according to truth and equity, and not unjustly and partially, as corrupt judges use to give sentence against the poor and meek.

In this sense this very phrase of bringing forth judgment is taken Psalm 37:6. And this sense seems to be favoured, both by the consideration of the quality of the persons, to whom this judgment is here implied to be brought forth, who are called bruised reeds, and smoking flax, whereby they are supposed to be persons discouraged and oppressed, and in a contest with themselves, or with their spiritual adversaries, about the state of their souls; as also by comparing this place with Matthew 12:20, where these very words are quoted, and thus rendered, till he send forth judgment unto victory, i.e. till judgment or sentence be given for him, in which case a man is said to be victorious in judgment.


This is our comfort, they are in a better place.
They are at rest.
So, you rest till you meet again.

2 Comments Add yours

  1. Makarios says:

    Deep thoughts.
    Refreshing words.

    Thanks for sharing.

  2. Jane Ibe says:

    Great words of wisdom. More grace ma

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